The definition of shame is a painful feeling arising from the consciousness of having done something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous, etc. In other words, it’s a confirmation that YOU did something wrong and it’s a natural disincentive for being a selfish jerk.
I get that there is a second (mis)use of this word where a person is “made" to feel less valuable by reasons that are no fault of theirs. That’s not shame, that’s cruelty and abuse, especially if it’s to a minor.
Throwing useful shame causes us to stop being accountable to others or to God. It’s causing the disappearance of right and wrong which is leading to chaos.
Moral: If you feel shame, there is a very high likelihood that YOUR conscience, given to you by God, is telling you something. This voice cannot be silenced. No matter how much you protest, it will follow you for the rest of your life and you will NEVER be free from it. Better choice: "straighten up and fly right.” (Repent, God will forgive, choose to do better)