They both make snowflakes. Snowflake - a slang term for a person, implying that they have an inflated sense of uniqueness, an unwarranted sense of entitlement, or are overly-emotional, easily offended, and unable to deal with opposing opinions.
When the going gets tough, and it always does, do you know who loses?
Answer: The emotionally weak. The only way to FEEL purposeful is to BE purposeful. And BEING purposeful is not for sissies.